When not to DIY! So you’re getting married in the country! You want a wedding that is unique to you and utterly personalized, with all the details reflecting you and your fiance’s style and passions.

With the increasing popularity of Pinterest, more and more couples are opting for DIY, embracing their creativity and hoping to save some money. Thousands of ideas and projects are at your fingertips, how to’s and dozens of wedding apps and blogs are just a click away. But beware, it is easy to get carried away and take on too much. Soon the excitement and joy you should be experiencing turns into anxiety and stress. There are many things that you can do yourself, but several, I strongly suggest, should be left to the pros!

Planning.
So you know exactly what you want, you’re organized, you found a great check list online, you’ve found your venue and maybe even your caterer, you have a preferred vendor list, you’ve got it under control, right?
Hiring a planner can be the best investment you make for your big day. Whether your time is at a premium and you need someone to hold your hand throughout the process or you hire a “month of” coordinator just to tie up all the loose ends, a planner can make the difference between a cohesive, well executed event or one that feels disjointed and disorganized. A planner’s loyalty will be to you first and will have your back. They are dedicated to coordinating your day exactly as you envision it as well as being able to turn on a dime with a backup plan if necessary. I know many DIY couples are on a tight budget and think of this as an added unneccesary expense but a good planner can help you create a budget and stick to it. They can help you find the best vendors within your budget. And the great thing is that you will be able to enjoy the best time of you lives without sweating the details.

Music.
With the amazing amount of music available on line and the availability of DJ apps, iPods and portable sound systems, why not DIY a playlist for your wedding?
A professional DJ or band can make or break your party. They have a presence and will interact with you and your guests. They will read the energy in the room and react accordingly. After your planner, they are the key to making the night an event to remember.

Photographer.
Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, everyone has a camera and knows how to use it! So why hire a professional photographer? Your wedding is one of the biggest events of your life. And one of the biggest investments you will make, with all the special moments that entails. A professional photographer will focus (no pun intended) on capturing every important element of your day. A contracted pro knows the drill, they can deal with family photos without any drama, they understand lighting and know what details you expect to be captured. You invested a lot of time and money into your wedding, make sure you get photos that capture all those special moments. You will treasure them forever. Hire a pro!

Florist.
Some of my clients dream that they want to DIY at least some part of their wedding flowers not only to save money but to bond with family and friends during the creative process. Be careful what you wish for! I love that brides want to be hands on and express their creativity but there are many other projects you can undertake. Flowers are living things, they are perishable. They require careful preparation and conditioning before they are even “party ready”. Flowers can not be done well in advance. So, unless you want to spend the precious day before yourwedding working, and, it is work, I suggest you let your florist do their thing!

So you just have to DIY.
Favors. There are so many great local options to choose from. Just add your own DIY touches. Local jams and jellies, honey or maple syrup- just add a customized label or tag. There are great templates available on line, or create your own.
Welcome Bags. This is a great way to greet your overnight guests and thank them for traveling to celebrate your big day. Be sure to include a personalized note, a map, a list of off beat things to do in the area and of course a snack- how about some local chocolates.
Signage. A key element to a rustic country wedding is the personalized, quirky signage. Blackboards denoting your signature cocktails, signs to greet guests at the ceremony site or pointing to the photo booth are all fun DIY projects.

Get creative, have fun, just don’t overdo it. And let the pro’s do what they do best!

Most couples planning a Catskill Mountain wedding will be from out of town. But whether you are a local bride or making this your destination, consider extending your celebration to a weekend of festivities. Since most of your guests will be traveling a distance, a wedding weekend allows them to experience all that you love about the Catskills and lets you spend more quality time with your friends and family. From the welcome party to the goodbye brunch you will have plenty of opportunities to create memory making moments.

The key to a successful Catskill wedding weekend is to communicate the itinerary. Give your guests plenty of time to prepare for all the events of the weekend by listing the schedule on your website. A wedding website is a snap to create and there are some great apps available that will walk you through every step. Don’t forget to suggest specific attire for each activity. Your guests may not be aware of the variable terrain and weather in the mountains! Include suggestions for guests to explore and enjoy on their own. Local distilleries, breweries, farmer’s markets, galleries and shopping are great options as well as favorite hot spots for lunch when out and about.

Welcome bags are a great way to remind guests of what they can expect over the weekend. Keeping your guests informed will help them relax and fully enjoy what is to come. Have the bags waiting for your guests at their accommodations or pass them out at the welcome party. Include the itinerary for all the weekends festivities as well as the times for the ceremony and reception. If you are supplying a shuttle for the welcome party or reception, include a schedule of pick up and departure times. I also like to add a simple map showing the venue location and other points of interest, just in case they miss the shuttle. Remember that many local areas have limited or no cell service so navigation apps are often unreliable.
Pre wedding festivities.
The day before your wedding, your planner will typically arrange for a rehearsal at the venue with you, your immediate family and your wedding party. If this is pre-organized it should take no more that 30 minutes. You will then be free to enjoy your rehearsal dinner or welcome party with your guests knowing that everyone knows the drill for the ceremony the following day.

Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner was an intimate affair for members of the wedding party and parents but with the growing popularity of destination weddings, the welcome dinner has expanded to include all your out of town guests. I recommend that this event be a casual buffet or BBQ.
A pizza or food truck will offer some flexibility for late arriving guests. After all, you want this to be a unique experience for your guests, a time to meet and greet everyone, but not to stress out your budget or compete with your reception the following day.

Your wedding day.
Start your day with friends and a sunrise yoga class, a guided hike or a leisurely bike ride. You can create a fun, sign up sheet and display it at your welcome dinner. This will help keep these activities a bit more organized. But don’t obsess, put someone else in charge so you don’t stress! Limit your activities to the morning to give your guests enough time to get ready for your big day.
After the ceremony and reception and as the evening winds down and comes to a close you can invite guests to enjoy a bonfire with s”mores or a late night snack or if you can’t bear for the evening to come to an end, head out to a local pub for an after party with a few of your closest friends.

The day after.
A post wedding brunch is a great way to say goodbye and thank those who traveled a distance to share your special day. Some guests will want to head home and some may even opt to sleep in, so, keep it simple.

Timing is everything so don’t overschedule. Allow your guests enough down time to relax and enjoy some time alone to enjoy all the Catskills have to offer. I guarantee they will leave with lasting memories of your unforgettable wedding weekend!

Photo credits
Amanda Popp Photography
Douglas Benedict Photography

In my quest for the perfect wedding dress, I had the opportunity to spend some time at Melissa Patrick’s adorable bridal boutique, Isabella’s Wedding Co. in Vero Beach, Florida. The shop is warm and inviting and filled with a carefully curated collection of bridal fashion and kitchy decorative accessories. It is located in the hip, trendy downtown section of town, surrounded by great galleries, good food and stylish boutiques.

While chatting about our couples and our wedding adventures, it became clear just how similar our clients are. Whether tying the knot at the shore with the wave and wind in their hair or in the wood with moss at their feet and pine in the air, our couples are more unconventional than most. And our brides tend to gravitate to a less formal and less traditional aesthetic.

Melissa selected a few of her client’s favorite wedding dress silhouettes that are trending this season. It is easy to see how they would be just at home in a barn or at the beach!

Etherial ball gowns take on a lighter approach when made with soft, breezy fabrics and a more relaxed silhouette.
Color is a popular choice this season. Blush gowns are feminine and flattering. But don’t stop there. Take a peak at styles available in the seasons favorite colors of Rose Quartz and Serenty Blue.
Bohemian chic is taking a turn with two piece separates and crop top styles. It’s a look that works as well in the mountains or at the shore. Afraid to commit, try this tempting option for after the ceremony. Then, dance the night away.

Minimalist sheaths offer clean lines and an elegant simplicity that are still on trend. This stunning aesthetic is cool, chic and comfortable.

Lace, lace and more lace…need I say more.

What a treat to trade tales with my southern counterpart. Melissa is smart, charming and talented, a true professional. A great day and I learned something in the process!

Etherial blush gown: Karen Willis Holmes-Bespoke Collection
Ivory, silk satin sheath: Sarah Janks
Ivory lace mermaid silhouette with almond lining: Wtoo
Photos: Catskill Weddings. www.catskillweddings.com
Isabella’s Wedding Company, Vero Beach.
www.isabellasbridal.com

When Pantone announced their selection for the top trending color palette for 2016- my first reaction was oh no, pink and blue!!

But on reflection I became inspired by the warm calming pink, Pantone is calling Rose Quartz and the relaxing, weightless periwinkle, Serenity Blue. This harmonious pairing embodies tranquility and inner peace.

I love colors that are evident in nature, in a cool, Catskill Mountain sunset or warm Outer Banks sunrise. It warms my soul and fills my heart with joy!

In this bouquet the beauty of Pink O’Hara garden roses is offset by the delicate blue tweedia. Tons of texture from astilbe, Queen Anne’s lace and silvery dusty miller. Beautifuly balanced with ivory and blush.
Intoxicating scents from gardenia, stock and of course the garden roses!
Stunning. LOVE. LOVE. LOVE.

It’s all in the details. And Christy, my bride, wanted to use her grandmother’s cameo in her bouquet. This vintage piece of jewelry has a sentimental meaning for her, so, I pinned it on a piece of antique rosey ribbon and finished the wrap with tiny pearl pins. Perfection.

You can have fun with your color palette without over doing it. What could be better than a retro candy bar or a tray of cool signature cocktails?

… Wedding wishes tied to a cherry blossom tree!

Remember, when selecting a color palette for your wedding, make sure that it reflects who you are and what you love and don’t be afraid to think outside the box. Even pink and blue can be be translated into something spectacular!!

Namaste,
Lydia

Photo credit: Catskill Sunset: Catskill Images
All Other photos: Catskill Weddings

 
Hurricanes and chunky pillars are so yesterday! Today’s brides are looking for towering candleabras- the taller the better- with elegant tapered candles. And although candleabras will put the finishing touch on the most elegant venue- I love the juxposition of using this polished look in a rustic barn. Mixing the old with the new is what it is all about. The candelabra at this wedding at The Hanah Resort warms the table on a cold January evening.
 

 
Continuing the theme- chandeliers. I use them everywhere. In tent installations, barns and of course outside! A large chandelier makes an important statement, but several smaller pieces, clustered together is sublime. Several candlelit chandeliers suspended from a huge branch make the entrance at The Roxbury Barn even more enchanting!

 
Color. I’m a sucker for it-always have been. As a florist and wedding planner, I think it is the first step in creating a wedding that reflects your style and personality.
 
For Molly and Phen’s wedding, the palette ranged from the softest blush to the deepest, richest burgundy. These hues set the tone for a romantic and ethereal wedding.
 

 
Molly’s lush bouquet features dinner plate dahlias in the palest shade of pink. I grow them along with several other varieties in the gardens behind the shop. I used crab apple branches, also from the property, to create the shape and garden roses, zinnias and peegee hydrangeas complete the look.
 

 
Molly’s bohemian style is reflected in her headpiece. It was very important to her that it was perfect, and I think it was! It was so important that I made two. One for the ceremony and another, brighter one for dancing the night away!
 

I am often asked if and how I address a “do it yourself ” bride.
In these tough economic times, it is a question that needs to be answered. Naturally I am a proponent for hiring a professional. Whether it is a wedding planner, caterer, florist or photographer, a true professional will come up with creative ideas to make your dreams a reality within your budget.

Every couple should have some idea of what they or their family wants to spend on their wedding. Don’t be afraid to address your budget. It is the most important first step in developing a plan customized to your day.

As a floral designer, I tell brides who think they want to do their own flowers to look at the big picture. There are many things to consider in this undertaking. How will you get the flowers to open, where will you store them, they do need to be refrigerated! There is nothing worse than flowers wilting in the hot sun. I know it sounds like fun to have your wedding party make your arrangements, but will they be up for it, or will you want them to, after a few cocktails at the rehearsal dinner!

Naturally I am a proponent for hiring a professional. A true professional will come up with creative ideas to make your dreams a reality within your budget.

I truly believe that no bride needs the added stress of pulling together her bouquets and table arrangements for her wedding, and I have bailed out many a bride that thought they could. Often I can come up with out of the box ideas for centerpieces that will fit into any one’s budget. If you do decide to do your own flowers- keep it simple and at least have your florist make your bouquet along with your attendants. Keep in mind- your flowers will appear in all your photographs and you will live with them for the rest of your life.

In the long run, working with professionals will save you time, money and a lot of anxiety.

Lydia Castiglia